Tracee, a visiting missionary recruit, once spoke in one of my college classes. She was a very attractive single woman in her late twenties, and she was on her way to Afghanistan as a missionary. When a student asked her to share about what it felt like being a single missionary at her age, she … More Stay in the race!
My single life was like a roller coaster ride: While I was dating someone, I felt good about myself, but when I wasn’t dating, I was in the pits. Once the pit was so deep that I fell into depression. During my senior year of college, I dated a girl for eight months. I thought … More One is a whole number!
Life is too short to be worried and dissatisfied during seasons of singleness. I was certainly not a satisfied single during my teenage years, nor into my early twenties. Looking back, I realize how desperate I was to find someone to love me—and how afraid that no one ever would. In high school, I was … More Chasing a butterfly
The writer of the book of Proverbs uses a strong, passionate word to describe his wish for a husband’s love for his wife, “may you ever be captivated by her love” (Proverbs 5:19). The word captivated in this passage can also be translated “intoxicated.” I would say that both of these words are great descriptions … More Treasure and Heart
There is an old saying that goes, “the grass is always greener on the other side.” We live in a culture of comparison. I genuinely feel sorry for married women who have to see all the “cover girls” on magazines every time they go through the checkout lane at a store. The not-so-subtle message of … More Greener on the other side?
Proverbs 5:18 says, “May you rejoice in the wife of your youth.” The author of Proverbs challenges a husband to rejoice in his wife just as he did on his wedding day, no matter how long they have been married. The strong principle of marital celebration arises from this passage of Scripture. God wants … More I celebrate you!
How amazing that God gives many of us the opportunity, during our short time on Earth, to get extremely close to another human being in the context of a lifetime covenant marriage! Such a relationship is set apart for deep intimacy in every area—physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. The problem comes when we think that … More God’s gift to me!
God wants his children to talk to him about everything. I like how Brother Lawrence, a monk from the 17th Century, challenges us to not limit in any way our conversations with God. “The most holy and necessary practice in our spiritual life is the presence of God. That means finding constant pleasure in His … More Practicing the Presence
I spent seven years of my life earning a PhD degree in Intercultural Studies. The PhD has been called a “terminal degree,” but I take issue with that. I did learn a great many things on that seven-year journey—but mostly I learned how much I still didn’t know. I was able to answer some questions … More Don’t stop learning!
We must learn to keep short accounts with the people we love. Not too long ago, when I was writing a book chapter about the topic of forgiveness, real life paid me a visit. My wife Julie and I had a heated argument about mowing our yard—and I raised my voice in anger. I see … More Leader of the Mowing!